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See These Loose Threads? I’m Tying Them Up.

January 23, 2011

Those looking for my bondage blog will have to keep looking, I have a relatively strict minimal bondage talk on this blog rule.

I know all my blog posts start with “I have lots of ideas, but real life is kicking my arse, blablabla.” I really have no idea how the rest of you do it. My day goes like this:

7am - Get up, get ready for work.
7:45am - Leave for work.
5-5:30pm - Get home from work, get supper ready.
6:30-7pm - Finish supper, have pre-raid nap.
9:50pm - Wake up, get ready for raid.
2:00pm - Unwind from raid, go to bed.

SEE HOW MUCH BLOGGING TIME IS IN THERE? Considering a blog post takes anywhere between 2 and 12 hours to write, it’s just not going to happen. I have no idea how people with kids and a social life manage to do this stuff.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not quitting blogging, I’m just making sure THE ENTIRE WORLD is as annoyed as I am with days that only have 24 hours. Like WTF. What was Mother Nature thinking? 24 hours is clearly not enough for a full day.

The Blogroll

There are few things I hate more than updating the blogroll, but there you go, it’s more or less up to date. If I forgot any paladin blogs, give me a nudge. My criteria are:

- Must have a paladin component
– Must have been updated in the past month.
– Must have been around for a few months.

I’ll make the occasional exception when I feel like it, but I don’t really take recommendations outside of those criteria. I add most blogs to my reader, but my blogroll is long enough, I have to cut somewhere.

New additions you might be interested in are :

Lykkos’ The Healing Bubble – Lykkos joined Conquest around Cataclysm and the guy is brilliant. Really, really smart healer. Hopefully he’ll update a bit more if he gets some traffic.

Joe Ego’s Levelling Holy – Most of your probably know Joe Ego from Plus Heal. And if you don’t, then you should. He’s had a blog for awhile, but the updates have become regular lately so I’m excited to finally get to add his work to my blogroll.

Aunna’s Bandage Spec – Aunna’s blog was actually in my “General Healing” folder, but pretty much all the content is paladin specific. Updates seem to be about every two weeks or so (kind of like my blog!) but the posts are good. They show a solid understanding of the class (I’ve learned a trick or two from Aunna!) and they’re written in a way that anyone get something out of them, from beginner to advanced players.

Fannon’s Dwarven Battle Medic – Another general healing blog that ended up being paladin-centric, Dwarven Battle Medic was one of my favourite discoveries lately. He post about everything from raiding, to general WoW commentaries, to amazing screenshots (I hear he’s trained as a professional photographer and, well, it shows!).

Porkchop’s Porkchopsnholysauce - Another great recent discovery, Porkchop writes about paladin healing and boss strats, with a few inserts about the greater WoW beyond paladins.

Vilepickle’s Best in Slot Ressource: Paladin – I found Vilepickle’s raid logs once when researching boss kills. It was totally random, and I was all “hey, that’s the Best in Slot guy!”. Errm. Anyway, his old BiS tool was so popular that he’s expanded to cover all classes. You have to pay to get access to everything, but there’s enough free information to be useful, even for those of us depended on our meagre student loans.

Naithin’s Fun in Games – A rare non-paladin exception, Naithin was one of the first people I “met” when I started blogging. A former Warrior/Druid blogger, he now writes about most aspects of WoW, with a touch of other games. He’s also a pillar among those of us who write about WoW for the writing part moreso than the WoW part. Those of you who want to get involved with a community of people who write and love to write, Naithin’s your guys.

Twitter Behaviours I feel Compelled to Mock

Yeah, I felt too bad to give these their stand alone post, but there are some (and by some I mean 3) Twitter behaviours that make me /facepalm.

1- Proudly announcing: “I UNFOLLOWED @SOANDSO” “So and so, you’re not my friend anymore! HEI EVERYONE! So and so isn’t my friend anymore!” Like srsly, grow up. Unfollow whoever you want, no one cares. Well, ok, we all love the popcornable drama, but you’re really not doing yourself a favour.

2- Tweets of “Unfollow me all you want, I don’t care!” Hi, stop lying. If you notice you’re being unfollowed and take the time to tweet about it, you obviously care. And if you care, it’s probably because you’re not being followed by enough people. Get out there and make some friends (or just add anyone who seems mildly interesting), then you’ll have no idea who follows you and who doesn’t.

3- Post argument “Oh, @soandso thinks this!” or “I love arguing with stupid people” Really obvious manoeuvre there. You realize that it’s impossible to have an intelligent discussion with 140 characters a reply and you deal with it by making sure the other person is JUST AS FRUSTRATED as you are. And you do it by trying to publicly humiliate them. Great people skillz you got there.

Yeah, I’m sure I demonstrate poor social skills at plenty of times too. Like when I mock people’s Twitter behaviours on my blog.

Anyway, that’s the loose end tying for now. Next few weeks are all about internship work (the joys of being a health science student: you have to PAY TO WORK) and negotiating for an official job when I graduate. As usual, the pattern of offers go: my first choice company doesn’t get back to me, so I go with the best offer among the companies who do get back to me. Then when I’ve developed a good relationship with best offer company and am ready to sign the contract, first choice company SUDDENLY shows interest in me again. It’s so much STRESS.

And to think that I could have gotten a job at WalMart right out of high school and not wasted 10 years of my life going to college and being STRESSED OUT all the time.

Shared Topic: Your Autoblogography

November 11, 2010

From Look Ma! I made a WoW Blog, April 7, 2009

A bossy pally can only chase people around to talk to them about WoW for so long before said people become good at getting away. Then, all thats left is the internet. You can still run away on the internet, oh yes. But sometimes you unknowingly run towards trouble and accidently read things.
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So I started a blog because I wasn’t getting enough WoW talk. I’m not yet sure where I want to go with this or if I’m going to go anywhere at all. Only time will tell, I guess?

We were running short on Shared Topics at Blog Azeroth (so you should all totally go and suggest some) and it was therefore my turn to come up with a Topic. And what do I like reading about? That’s right. Big, fat, juicy, behind the scenes blogging stories. Hence the Topic: Your Autoblogography.

The Topic starts next week and you can prepare for it by reading this post and by checking the thread at Blog Azeroth.
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Updating the Blog Links. And stuff

November 5, 2010

So I’ve been computerless for a little over a week now. I do have a list scribbled out of all my exciting adventures in the tangible world, but, um, I kinda want to go home and have a nap. Amazing how much sleep ones body is capable of when not confronted with screen glare for several hours a day.

Personal Links

I did update the links on the side of my blog. My list of goofy posts is unchanged. As for the slightly more informative posts, I cut all the completely outdated links. Some, like the Cleansing post, the Aura Mastery post, the Hand of Protection post and two of the boss strategy posts (Valithria and Lich King) still hold partially true, so I left the links with a note indicating that they’re dating back to 3.3.3. I did something similar with “Things you probably always wanted to know” posts. While specific abilities have changed, most elements of the leveling mindset have not.

It was hard, deleting the links to all that hard work! I should write more silly posts, those never go out of style. Or if they do, it’ll be, like, 25 years from now, and while people probably won’t find them amusing anymore, they’ll be useful to provide historical insight into WoW gaming culture circa 2010. Always happy to do my part in contributing to future society.

I did add a category with all the World of Logs posts I’ve done. WoL is still a mystery to many, so I thought it might be helpful to have a few quick links on the side bar. While the fights featured in those posts will soon be pretty dated, the tricks to navigating WoL will not.

The Blogroll

Aaand now for the social tediousness that is the blogroll. I hate blogrolls, so so much. I want to keep it short, but I want to link to a good variety of blogs and I certainly don’t want to insult anyone. I’m subscribed to something like 400 blogs. Not all of them are active, not all of them are even legible, but I hate to miss something exciting, so I just subscribe to everything. I read the posts that sound interesting and skip those that start with “Not paladin info for current patch“. Oh and with 20 different folders, keeping things organized is a joke. But as a result, I know specific posts better than specific bloggers. I know those whom I communicate with often, as well as the pally bloggers, but for most everyone else, I’m all “And you are? …Oh! You wrote THAT post! Oh yeah, I totally love you. What’s your blog again?

I’ll link to pretty much every paladin blog I can find, because I think our class community rocks. There’s so much great stuff out there and it all deserves to be linked to. Besides, new or not-so-new paladins looking to network with other paladins should be given every available option.

I am, however, biased towards healing these days, so there are probably many retribution or protection blogs that I’ve missed. Heck, there are even holy paladin blogs that I discover far too late! So if anyone knows of left out paladin blogs, please give me a heads up. My only major criteria is that they be updated regularly (I set the cutoff date for this batch of updates as October 4th as the last post). I do link to a handful of retired pally blogs, either because of their contribution to the community or because of personal reasons but I like to keep that list as short as possible.

All the new additions this time, I think, were holy.

Pally Changes and Introductions

I was shocked when I noticed that I hadn’t already added Azeroth Apple. She’s an excellent writer and her gentle yet candid style makes her posts super easy to relate to. Her latest posts have been about joining a new guild, learning to raid, experiences that we’ve all encountered at some time or another, or that we might be having right now, and they’re always a pleasure to read.

I was also surprised when I realized that Non Elitist Raiding Diary wasn’t linked anywhere. Bragwen’s been busy with her new baby MMO Leader, but she is a holy paladin (and is writing about it more and more!) and her posts are usually either informative, thought-provoking or all of the above. She knows how to write and how to write well, so her posts pretty much read themselves.

Another addition was Looking for More… by Jeffo. (Note that there is another blog called Looking for More by Analogue and Reversion, which is also excellent and I suggest you all check it out). I’ve been subscribed to his blog since forever, but he updates so sporadically that I could never tell whether or not he was active. When he does update, though, he has a unique writing style that spices up any topic he tackles. Definitely a blog to add to your readers.

Muradin Musings is a newer blog that I’ve been following for some time now. Janyaa’s choice of topics, primarily paladin oriented with guild or general gaming experiences mixed in, are very similar to my own, so I was hooked immediately. She updates frequently, her posts always have a good substance to them and she masters the art of blogging from a very personal yet classy perspective, so I can see her gaining a lot of momentum in the WoW blogging world within the next couple of months.

As for retired bloggers showing some activity lately, I was excited to move A Touch of Arcane back to Holy and The Suicidal Zebra to Retribution. Both blogs, I believe, speak for themselves and hardly need an introduction. I hope both will stick around for some time.

Non Paladin Blogs and Guildies

The Non Paladin blogs section is always an annoyance. I like to keep this section short, but I had a list of about 30 blogs that I felt all blog readers should absolutely follow with religious zeal. I cut it down, maybe I’ll do a rotation or something… Anyway, I go with the mentality of “if I were new to blog reading, what should I read first“. So this means blogs that aren’t primarily class based, blogs that are easy to read and blogs that are catchy. I like diversity as well: Cynwise for PvP, Pink Pigtail Inn for game commentary, MMO Melting Pot for the light it sheds on the WoW blogosphere, A High Latency Life for the colourfulness if its writers and so on. As for new additions, other than MMO Melting Pot and High Latency Life, I added Fel Concentration and The Stories of O, both lovely blogs written by fantastic ladies who often tread on unbeaten paths. Note that O’s been spending most of her blogging time these days over at Divine Aegis, a blog that you-priesty types would be familiar with (I hear they’re recruiting a pally blogger too, for those interested!). I also updated the links to Jaded Alt and Jaedia’s Menagerie (formally The Lazy Sniper). I had been wondering why I never heard from either of them anymore. Turns out they’ve both moved their sites. Oh and if you look closely, you might find a link to my personal blog. I don’t update it often, but I’ve had a few people ask about it. It’s my exploring ground, my writers’ version of singing in front of the mirror with a hairbrush, so there might be a few occasional posts there in the future.

Finally, I made a little shoutout to my guildies section. You all know Matt and Redhawks, but there’s some more hidden talent in Conquest. My guildy X started a new death knight blog called The “X” Zone. It’s pretty quiet there at the moment, but maybe with a little encouragement, he’ll write some more. And for you audio type people, my guildies Logan, Vik and Bruherd have a podcast called Leetsauced. Warning! It’s not safe for work, like, not safe at all. I think they have a few more episodes currently in production. They’ve interviewed a few of our guildies (including myself), so if you’ve been thinking on clicking the Conquest Recruitment forum link but are wondering what kind of people you’d have the pleasure of raiding with, listen to a few episodes of Leetsauced.

Well so much for that nap

I think talking about my computerless week would have been faster overall. Oh well. I’ve been getting more than enough sleep anyway. I signed up for this, um, French club thing this afternoon. I’m sort of embarrassed because I haven’t really spoken to anyone from back home in months so my French is really rusty. But then again, this a French club at an English speaking school in Newfoundland. Nooooo one should notice my accent.

EDIT: I completely forgot Paladin Complex while updating my list! Retribution blogs are a rare treasure (especially to this wannabe ret healadin), so I am quite ashamed of myself. Dallanna doesn’t update often (*scolds*) but from the sound of it, Cataclysm is likely to inspire a number of interesting posts guiding us around the ret world. As well, he (or is it she? I can’t tell) mentioned some opinion/discussion type posts in the works, the kind of posts I love so much.

Also added Oh My, Kurenai to my general link list. Rhii branched out on her own, but kept her fantastic storytelling abilities.

While I’m doing some link love, I want to mention two really new blogs that caught my eye. The first Moments in the Life of a Death Knight, is written by the upbeat and enthusiastic Lady Erinia, which goes to show that DKs aren’t the downers they’re reputed to be. Her posts about gaming addiction are what caught my eye. They’re high caliber and probably require a certain background in psychology to really grasp, if you have any interest at all in the field of gaming addiction, they’re a must read. Also check out the scarves she makes and sells to raise money for her feline companion’s surgery.

The second is guild leadership blog: Dedicated Insanity by Gaia and Roksi. I played on their server for years, and when I saw the name of their guild, I thought “No way! They have a blog!” Production Company was (and I’m sure, still is) a very prominent guild on Moonrunner, so I was thrilled to see them blogging and sharing what they know about guild management.

Blizzcon Casulties, part 2

October 28, 2010

You didn’t expect all my adventures to fit in a single post, did you?

The Guildies

The best part of Blizzcon, of course, is the people. Initially, it was the only reason I wanted to go anyway. Just to put faces and bodies to the names and voices I’ve spent so many happy evenings with.

Borrowed the picture from Matt since I didn't get one with everybody on it. Nevermind how terrible I look. IT WAS LATE AT NIGHT.

I’ve met guildies before, but this was the largest meetup I’ve attended. If I counted it right, a total of 14 guildies from past and present made an appearance. Murmurs of WoW Insider and the official forums fame stayed with us as well and became an honorary guildie (even if we didn’t see him much, popular guy that he is. PS. he’s super cute).

To those who’ve never met guildies, I wish I could explain what it’s like. The closest I can come is by saying that it’s exactly like being on vent together, except that we can see each other’s faces. The conversations we had were just like those we have online, but we could still understand each other if more than one person spoke at once (unlike vent).

I had been really worried about being the only girl from the gang, but it was a non-issue. It felt just like hanging out with my brothers. They even tried to make me feel like one of the gang by trying to pair me up with random guys at the WoW Insider meetup. Unfortunately, I wasn’t feeling so hot (less than 3 hours of sleep and more than 12 hours of travelling in the past 36 hours), so it was pretty disastrous:

Guildie (to random guy): Hey, have you met Tina?
(They had this system where all the guys were nicknamed Ted and I was Tina)
Random guy (to me): Hey Tina.
Me: Hey, how’s it going?
*awkward silence*
Random guy: *points to my drink* What am I drinking?
Me: *thinking he’s asking about my drink* Um…*trying to remember what my drink was* Jack and Coke.
Random guy: Nope, I’m not drinking anything. See? My hands are empty. You’re wrong.
Me:….

I rudely waved him away and turned around. By then the room was spinning and I felt like I was about to throw up (and no, I wasn’t drunk, the Jack and Coke was almost full), so I finished up my drink, ran back to my hotel and burst into tears.

So, guy in this story, if you’re reading this, I’m sorry! I’m not usually that rude, I just really, really don’t travel well!

I didn’t get iced, although I told them I’d be up for it. I was partly grateful, partly disappointed. I’d like to see if I could do it and feel like part of the team. At the same time, my stomach was bothering me the entire trip and I was desperately trying to avoid being sick. There’s no way I could have kept a sweet drink down!

On a side note, I have to wonder about those people on TLC shows who eat almost exclusively junk food. I only had a couple of junk food meals and yet felt quite horribly ill from all the fat and salt.

My guildies also came up with what ended up being somewhat of a rally call. Whenever Matt was around, Bruherd, especially, kept yelling, WE’VE GOT THEE MATTICUS! FROM WORLD OF MATTICUS DOT COM! WE’RE RECRUTING FOR CATACLYSM!

Most of the time I wanted to crawl under the sidewalk, but it did come in handy. Whenever I had trouble finding my group, I’d just stop and listen for the THEE MATTICUS call. And it was apparently contagious: even Ghostcrawler exclaimed “It’s THEE MATTICUS!” at one point.

Meeting Non Guildies

The magical thing about Blizzcon is that you’re surrounded by all sorts of people. Grandparents, small children, prom-queen types, individuals who haven’t left their bedroom since Blizzcon last year… All sorts of people. Yet, not matter how different we are, we all have that one thing in common: we love gaming enough to be here.

I met so many people last week, old friends and new friends. It was amazing. There’s no way I can tell all the stories, or do justice to all those who crossed my path, so here are some select (mostly embarrassing) highlights.

One of the events I was most looking forward to was the TNB meetup. TNB played a huge role in getting me to start blogging in the first place, so I’d been counting down the days until the meetup.

I spend some time with the lovely ladies Beruthiel (whom I wasn’t expecting to see at all! Such a pleasant suprise!) and Anafielle. I have to say, it was wonderful to hear about other topics than booze and sex! I completely fell in love with both of them and the evening was just too short!

I also got a picture with the Righteous Defense duo Rhidach and Anafielle. Back when I was tanking full time, I studied Righteous Defense religiously. When I saw both of their names on the TNB list, I was thrilled! I was even more thrilled when I saw that they both made it to the meetup. Rhidach was pretty quiet and only came out for a few minutes, but I was so fangirly and giddy that it was probably a good thing. Wouldn’t want to embarrass myself any more!

Speaking of being fangirly and giddy, there was one point where I was right next to Turpster. Right next to him. And I was so shy and intimidated that I couldn’t say anything. I ended up mumbling something like “take my raffle ticket”. Without making eye contact, I clumsily shoved my raffle ticket at him and ran off. I’m really smooth like that…

I hope he at least won something with it.

Exploring the Area

One Friday, I had the day to myself as my guildies were all at the convention. I love walking and exploring, so I leisurely strolled down Katella Ave. Then I leisurely strolled down Main St. About two hours later, my legs sort of hurt and I found myself in downtown Santa Ana.

It was like stepping into a different world. I turned off my iPod, but kept the earphones on. I didn’t want strangers pointing out the giant “TOURIST!” sign hanging above my head. I listened to the conversations around me. My Spanish is decent, considering my last Spanish lesson was over 10 years ago, but I couldn’t understand everything that was being said. I also didn’t want to take the risk of pulling out my camera.

I drifted by all the discount jewellery and bridal shops. I went to the grocery store and practiced my Spanish a little. Olà! Gracias! Ok, maybe I didn’t practice it very much.

I walked a little further and found the Artists Village. I stopped for lunch at a gorgeous place called The Gypsy Den. I then made my way back up Main to the Bowers Museum. I’m a huge nerd who loves museums, especially cultural anthropology museums, so I was served. I floated from exhibit to exhibit, learning about arts and craftsmanship in Oceania and China.

By the time they kicked me out so they could close up, I was exhausted so I decided to take part in the joyous experience of Orange County public transit. (As a general note, to those who want to become backpackers, I highly encourage sampling public transit wherever you go. Nothing will give you a feel and a taste of a place the way sitting on a crowded, or deserted, city bus will.)

My guildies were supposed to meet me at the hotel at 6 for supper. Well, 6 came and went. 6:30 came and went. No sign of guildies. My phone doesn’t work in the US, so I had no idea how long they planned on making me wait. I also wanted to be at the TNB meetup at 9, so I was furious. Furious. The jerks.

(Matt, who was doing his big-shot blogging stuff that afternoon and wasn’t supposed to meet up with us until later at night, ended up saving the day by making an appearance and texting the guys for me.)

Saturday night, I skipped on the Hilton party to get a feel of the reputed LA nightlife. Unfortunately, by then I was so tired I could barely keep my eyes open. A guildie and I ended up going to a small place nearby in Fullerton. In the end, it was a great idea. The music was fantastic and the crowd was friendly and unpretentious. I danced for hours.

My poor foot (the same one as the huge blister!) got stabbed by a stiletto. I think I made a very high pitched sound and the stiletto wearer found herself flying into the crowd. We kind of stared at each other for a moment. Neither of us apologized, but I guess it wasn’t necessary. We were even: her stiletto was very sharp and I don’t know my own strength.

I had another adventure on Sunday. Most of the gang had gone home, but our raid leader, Evan, had stuck around to drive Matt and I to LAX. Matt wanted to be at the airport early and I wanted to go to Hollywood. By then, my brain-mouth filter had broken down and for those few hours I was quite possibly the most annoying person on the planet. Kudos to Evan for humouring me. I actually lost my voice from talking so much.

No one had a map, so after dropping off Matt, Evan and I randomly drove around until we found Hollywood and the walk of fame.

We did eventually make it. And we probably would have made it earlier had I not been wrong with every guess of direction I made. On the bright side, the drive was very educational: we unintentially toured a ghetto where all the houses had barred windows, a red light district and a number of freeways.

On the way back, we stopped off for food and in my exhaustion, I forgot how to act in a restaurant. I talked really loud (why Evan didn’t shut me up, I don’t know). Then I couldn’t figure out how to put the tip on my receipt. I forgot that I hadn’t paid yet and that I would get a paper with a tip line after my credit card was returned. After paying, I just sat there, forgetting that I could leave now.

I didn’t drink much during Blizzcon. I don’t have to drink to be stupid.

And now I’m home

My flight to Toronto was packed with Blizzcon enthusiasts, but I was so tired that I just sat on the ground (there aren’t enough seats at LAX) and stared blankly at them. The stares they gave me in return were just as blank. No social mana left at all. Shame. The three semi-passed out across from me were hawt.

I did get some exercise in the Toronto airport. 15 minutes to go through customs and security… Yeah, I didn’t make my connection. Well, I did, but only because they held the flight for me. My carry-on only challenge paid off: the only reason I made the flight was because I had no checked luggage.

I made it to my 1pm class on Monday. My flight landed at 11:30am, so I even had time to go home and take a shower!
I still haven’t completely recovered, but my voice is slowly coming back, the sore throat is almost gone and I’ve been awake for at least 4 consecutive hours.

Now to catch up on all the schoolwork I missed…

But This is Where It Ends, This is Where It Ends

September 7, 2010

But this is where it ends
This is where it ends
Call the police and call the press
But please, dear God, don’t tell my friends

– This is Where It Ends, Barenaked Ladies

I’ve had that song stuck in my head all weekend. The summer is ending, of course, not the blog. The blog, hopefully, will actually pick up now that I’m back on a regular schedule and will have plenty of hours of staring at a computer screen at the library.

The whole song actually does feel appropriate, though, after last weekend. I knew it would be rough to spend my last few days on the West Coast- and my birthday- alone in a city that likes to violently scrape the thoughts from my mind the way you’d scrape burned egg from a frying pan. What I wasn’t accounting for was when Life nailed me to a wall and hurled Herself (Life, of course, doesn’t have a gender, but I always call Her “She”) at me until I gave up. One day I’ll tell those stories, but not today.

Still, in the end, I think it was worth it.

As I was walking east on Georgia, following the overpass, heading back to my hotel one last time to pick up my luggage and get ready to go to the airport, I looked to my left. The setting sun lit up one particular building. Just under the roof it read Everything Is Going To Be Alright. Do you ever feel as if Life actually tries to converse with you?

Over my summer spend adventuring the West Coast, I’ve found comfort in two novels, one by Elizabeth Gibson, Eat Pray Love (which I swear I read before I knew it was going to be a movie!), a tale of the world traveling adventures of a recent divorcée in her 30s and one by Alice Steinbach, Without Reservations: The Travels of an Independent Woman, the Europe traveling adventures of a long divorced woman in her 50s. I love how they’re so different from myself age-wise and lifestyle-wise, but as solo travelers, the lessons we learn about ourselves and the internal challenges we face are the same. And the mornings where I woke up sobbing in my pillow, wondering why the hell I was doing this to myself when I could be back in my hometown living a NORMAL AND SIMPLE life, it helped to know that I’m far from the only female solo traveler who’s felt that way.

You meet a lot of people when you travel alone for months at a time. But most of all, you meet yourself.

All the Blogging I Missed!

I think I’ve read most of the major discussions, but my time was so limited that I couldn’t participate much. I loved reading all the feminism posts- I’ve taken part in (and started) a few WoW-gender trends in the past, but this was by far the largest and most elaborate discussion on the topic I’ve seen so far. Since I’m the ultimate people watcher, I especially enjoyed hearing about everyone’s personal experiences.
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Refuting Accusations Made Towards My Feminist Side

August 17, 2010

I was originally working on a post about intergender communication in a raid setting, but I kept veering off topic. I just had too much say. So I’m writing this post to get a number of things off my chest. You can still expect a post on communication in the near future, once I get this out of the way and can focus better.

I had someone try to explain feminist WoW blogging to me the other day. Apparently, I don’t understand feminism.

While I didn’t really take part in the recent flurry of feminist posts started by Pewter’s (excellent and well researched) literary analysis-style post on WoW, I have written a number of blog posts about women and WoW. I’m proud that some of them even sparked discussions stretching beyond the portals of my little corner of the internet. In my WoW life, I’m very involved with my predominantly male guild (in the 10 months I’ve been with them, I can’t think of a time where we’ve had more than 4 active female raiders at once), I’m a serious player, I’ve had tanking as my main spec in the past, I’ve led raids, I’m not afraid to speak up on vent when I’m pugging and when male players act patronizing towards me, I tell them off. In real life (because real life is important!), I’ve lived without the security blanket of a relationship for years, I’m finishing up my second university degree, I’ve volunteered in women’s shelters, I’ve written papers on domestic violence, I’ve been a girl guide leader, I wrote my IBO extended essay on the portrayal of women in Lord of the Rings, I’ve participated in vigils remembering the Montreal Polytechnic Massacre … Yeah, apparently I need to have feminism explained me.

I know I’m pretty mild when writing about gender issues. It’s that I don’t believe in complaining. I believe in taking action. I don’t talk feminism very much because I’m busy living it.

Step up and take control

Don’t get me wrong, injustices (be they gender related or not) should be called out. Yelled from the rooftops. They should be clearly described, discussed and, if at all possible, solved. That’s not complaining, it’s educating, it’s raising awareness.

But words only get so far. I do have problems with sites like My Fault, I’m Female, where angry women rant to other angry women about how much their life (and the world around them) sucks because they’re female. I certainly understand the benefits of venting to individuals who can empathize, but victimizing yourself puts you in a powerless position, at the mercy of jerks everywhere. It’s true that you can’t ever control what others believe and how they behave (well, in countries where most workplaces have very strict sexual harassment laws, you can control behaviour in some situations), but you can choose how you deal with things.

I’d prefer to read a site where women empower other women by going beyond sharing the frustrating moments in their lives and add how they’ve overcome those adversities and reached their goals. I don’t believing in victims, only survivors.

In a WoW setting, I wish other female players would speak up on vent when they pug. Yes, there’s a small chance someone will make a sexual remark, that someone will claim you’re a bad player, that it’ll be assumed you’re the healer. There’s also a small chance you’ll be stabbed in the subway someday. Or that you’ll get mugged on the street. Or that you’ll be crippled in a car accident. Do you stay home every day out of fear that, maybe, something bad might happen?

Ok, some people do. But the thing is, if you keep quiet on vent out of fear, you’re giving all the WoW assholes power over you. So if you want to speak up, then do so. If something bad comes of it, then use the experience to raise awareness and empower other women.

If it’s any reassurance, in my 5 years of playing WoW, I’ve always been open about my gender. I call stuff out on vent while I’m pugging, I correct people when they say “he”, I walk around with my Ammen Vale Lashling out, and the worst I’ve ever gotten from random strangers was “hey, cool, we have a girl in a the raid”. Which really isn’t insulting at all.

And the more women who are open about their gender (note, “being open” DOES NOT equate “flaunt”), the more the inhabitants of the World of Warcraft will realize that female WoW players are in fact quite common and, omigosh, not a big deal.

“WoW, from a women’s perspective”

When Matt and I exchanged some lines on Twitter about blogging about men in WoW and about men/women in-game interactions, we got a few interesting reactions.

What’s there to talk about?”

It’s been done to death.”

So boys, apparently, you’re boring, you have life served to you on a silver platter and you’ve been talked about so much that no cares anymore. What do you think of that?

I don’t know what the ratio of men to women is in WoW, but it’s not that impressive anymore. The millions of blogs with the tagline “WoW from a girl gamer’s perspective” make me smile. There are corners in WoW where women are uncommon: hardcore pvp, high end raiding, auction playing, serious tanking. I have a lot of admiration for those women who dare tread in waters they’re not expected to be seen in.

But for the most part? We’re not special little snowflakes anymore, but it pleases us greatly to believe we are.

(As a side note, I do recognize that it’s just pleasant to talk about WoW with other women, which is probably why groups like WoW_ladies are really popular. Talking about WoW to men just isn’t the same.)

Men on the other hand… I have yet to see a “WoW from a guy gamer’s perspective” tagline. And I bet, if it does happen, it’ll be very scandalous.

It’s like single gendered guilds. Male-only guilds are “sexist”. Female-only guilds are “admirable”. Female-only guilds do tend to be better at marketing themselves, touting the pleasures of playing amongst girlfriends instead of spewing bullshit like “we play better than the other gender”. But at the end of the day, single gendered guilds are about having guy-time or girl-time without the social and sexual pressure oozed by the presence of the opposite gender.

Women are the victims of a lot of double standards, but it doesn’t justify double standards against men.

Having non-cavemen guildies isn’t “fortune” it’s choice

I cringed a little at Metaneira‘s choice of words when she wrote “Ais and I are fortunate enough to be in a guild that promotes inclusiveness“. Her and Ais aren’t in their guild thanks to luck. They’re not guilded with cavemen because they’re self-respecting women who chose a guild where they’re treated like human beings. They chose to not join a guild that doesn’t believe in female tanks, that doesn’t allow women to be officers and that ignores contributions from female players on basis that they’re female.

To all women who are in such guilds: leave. Alt tab over to WoW THIS VERY INSTANT and type /gquit. There are tons, tons, tons AND tons of guilds that judge players according to skill (in a performance guild) or personality (in a social guild) rather than gender. Why the heck would you be wasting your time with a guild that doesn’t?

Of posting your photo on your guild forums

I’ve been thinking on that one quite a bit lately. In the past, I’ve felt the same way as those fearing the wrath of other females about posting pictures. Then I thought about it.

I once criticized a female applicant for putting her picture in her application. But really, a guy applying with a picture would have triggered the same “lol…wut?” from me. Guild applications are about who you are as a player, not what you look like in real life. Guildies post pictures of themselves as a faces-to-names/voices thing among friends. An applicant is a stranger, no one is nosey about looks quite yet.

As for posting provocative pictures, yeah, a woman posting pictures of her breasts will cross other women. If a guy posted provocative pictures of his 6-pack, though, well…do you REALLY think the other guys will let him get away with it?

Same goes for the woman who posts 20 pictures of herself. If a guy posts 20 pictures of himself, he’d get his share of crap too.

As for “you’re hawt!” type remarks, as long as they’re not creepy disturbing or coming from someone 10 years younger, I don’t see what’s offensive about them. No one complains when I compliment my male guildies on their pictures. And between you and me, I kinda like being told I’m hawt. Iin my real life, I’m appreciated only for my listening skills and my ability to recite chapters of Therapeutic Choices, it’s pretty nice to be treated like, you know, a warm blooded human being sometimes.

If you do get creepy disturbing comments after posting a picture, please scroll back up to the part about being guilded with cavemen.

Want to read more?

For a topic that’s supposed to be exhausted, I find I still have way too much to say about it. But I’ll give you all (as well as my fingers) a break from my wordiness and make a few reading suggestions for those of you who still believe women in WoW are a rarity. (Also, I can only think of so many blogs off the top of my head. I know there are tons more. If you write or know of a blog that fits into a category below, feel free to suggest it and I’ll add it to the list)

My past gender-related posts
The Treatment of Women in WoW part 1
The Treatment of Women in WoW part 2
The New Recruit or How I Almost Got in a Fight with a Sexist Jerk

Gifted bloggers who regularly write about gender in WoW
The Pink Pinktail Inn
Pugnacious Priest

Recent feminism posts
The ‘mental Shaman
Empowered Fire
Stories of O
The Lazy Sniper
Raging Monkeys (also a co-GM, raidleader and pvper!)

The following bloggers aren’t necessarily preoccupied by gender in WoW. They are, however, successful at roles or playstyles that are often described as “difficult” for a woman to be accepted in. Most of the time, our greatest limitations are the ones we impose on ourselves.

Female GMs/Raid Leaders
A Healadin’s Tear
Dwarf Babble
Kiss My Alas
Flash of Moonfire
You Yank It You Tank It
Tree Bark Jacket
I Like Bubbles

PvE Progression Focused Female Players
Moar HPS
Kurn’s Corner
Disco Priest
Falling Leaves and Wind
Ecclesiastical Discipline
HoTs & DoTs
Life in Group 5
Tales of a Priest

I’m going to slightly raise my face from the keyboard for a second

July 23, 2010

I’m going to be quite honest here. I don’t feel like writing a post today. Like most nights, I can barely keep my eyes open. I don’t know how you non-students manage this every day of your lives AND do stuff like eat/cook/take care of kids. I can’t remember the last time I’ve had the energy to eat supper, much less make it! I’m actually sort of looking forward for school to start again so I can do other things but work and sleep! (Although when I’m at school, “other things” constitute mainly of studying… I guess the grass is always greener.)

But even though I don’t feel like making a legit post. I have a couple of things to say.

First, I did write a post! Yay! Only it’s not here. It’s over at World of Matticus and it’s about the paladin changes in Cataclysm. Take a good look at it because you won’t see me writing about Cataclysm news very often!

Also, there is a sort of mistake in my post there that I’ll edit once someone with approving power gets around to approving the comment that pointed it out. Holy Mending is indeed the tier 8 2p bonus. I completely missed that when I was going through the list of Cataclysm skills. It looks like it’s going to be a permanent skill, taught at level 80.

There’s something else I’ve been meaning to say, but keep forgetting when I’m sitting in front of the computer.

I’d like to give some link love to my guildie Redhawk, space chicken extraordinaire, who blogs at Redhawk’s Gaze. He doesn’t just write about druid stuff, so even if fluffly bird druids aren’t your thing, you’ll still find plenty of interesting posts. He also updates quite a bit more than I do! So head over to his blog and give him a hug for me.


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