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Positivity!

July 12, 2009

happy-face Not very bossy of me, but I’ve been thinking about this a lot. The topic of member recognition recently came up in guild discussions. We finally decided against establishing a formal motivational system, but I made a point to remind everyone that informal recognition can be very motivating as well.

Personally, I find that a formal system (such as a guildie of the month) is a little childish. It reminds me of when I was 9 and in Girl Guides. The other issues that were pointed out with that sort of system were that 1) by recognising one person at a time, you’re not recognising the 24 others who’ve also dedicated their time and energy to the guild, and 2) an effect opposite to desired one might occur and people who are forgotten may get resentful. Basically, formal recognition has the potential of becoming an additional oppertunity to play favorites.

So how can recognition be done informally? Many ways!
- Point out someone’s improvements and the raids where they perform better than usual
- /w someone after a raid and let them know they rock
- Thank people warmly (and possibly publically) when they do a favor for the guild
- Slide compliments into conversations
- If you’re a leader of some sort, occasionally give someone a specific task that will allow them to shine

The sum of it is, be positive. While downing a new boss and getting new lootzes is lovely, knowing that you’re appreciated by these people you’re spending several nights a week or more with has a longer lasting afterglow. Plus, you’re not limited to a certain number of members per month and anyone can recognise someone else, its not just officers pointing out who they currently like most. I think officers do have a role in setting the atmosphere and in reaching out to the quieter, overlooked members, but in the end, keeping up team spirit is a group effort and is everyone’s responsibility.

I realise that I’m a little girly and sentimental, but I think that everyone, even the most serious, grim player, smiles a little bit, deep down inside when told “good game” after a /win.

I don’t want to see your dirty laundry, but…

July 6, 2009

While no one needs to see your dirty laundry, a little conflict isn't always bad

While no one needs to see your dirty laundry, a little conflict isn't always bad

My guild does not believe in hidden forums. Anything good enough for the boards should be good enough for the world looking in – including potential applicants evaluting us.

This is rarely problematic as most of the posts are raid threads and contain nothing but lines akin to “I’ll be 5 minutes late” or “sorry I can’t make it, good luck in there!” or “here are the stats for the night”. Occasionally someone will post a funny link. Nothing embarassing, nothing incriminating.

Then, out of the blue, something less….dull…. will happen. A person will disagree with another. Or several people with several others. Discussions start, tempers get heated, the texttypers post something illegible and so on. Oh the horror!

Officer emails suddenly abound (the officers in my guild correspond by email) and the team devides itself into three groups :

Group 1 : OMG close the offending thread and bury it! Delete it if we can!

Group 2 : We can’t censor people or I really don’t care what the world sees

Group 3: What thread?

Are disagrements always bad and embarassing? I don’t think so.

Some types of conflict (read: drama) are better off hidden from the world. Heck, the guild itself doesn’t need to watch personal conflicts explode. Equally, threads containing “I worked so hard for you guys and in return you stab me in the back and now my life is ruined and you suck and I hate you all” or its modern cousin “i wrkd so hard 4 u giz n in rtrn u stab me in teh back n no my liefz rund n u sukc n i h8 u all” might not be helpful for recruitement. Just saying.

But what about something along the lines of “I’m not sure I agree with this rule for reasons X, Y and Z. I would like to propose changing it a bit to the following…”? Is that harmful? I mean, if a few people in the guild don’t like this rule, the guild must be awful and we should never apply or associate them. Obviously, in order for a group to have a good environnement, everyone must agree with all the rules all the time…. And anyone who thinks that way has yet to experience kindergarden. Or at least experience a group with a positive environnment.

As soon as you have a group of people, some will disagree on something at some time. Thats just how things work. Is that bad? Of course not! By disagreeing, you’re introducing a new perspective, you’re opening the lines of communication and you’re showing that you’re comfortable enough to take an emotional risk. Now, the frequency of disagreement, the topic of disagreement, the way the disagreement is expressed and the way the disagreement is received make all the difference.

I can’t say I shop for guilds on a daily basis. However, I do frequently have to choose to be around various groups of people, be it in a professional, acedemic or recreational setting. And yes, I like to know how often people argue, what they argue about, are they respectful and constructive in expressing their dissent and are dissents in turn accepted in a respect and constructive manner. In real life, we rarely get to see conflicts within a group until its too late. However, when browsing guild forums, we often do get that chance. And should your guild forums have the rare thread where people are constructively discussing in a grown-up, mature fashion varying points of vue on a perticular rule, I believe it may play in your advantage.

Besides, a guild composed of members and officers with good conflict resolution skills is nothing to be ashamed of!

Mount? Check! Mace? Check! Bubble? Oh yeah!

April 7, 2009

Its hard to make a paladin joke that isn’t clichéed.
Well.
Maybe its not hard, but the clichéed jokes are just THAT easy.

So lets talk about me and my pally. (I’m loving this blog thing already.) We go way back. 4 years, maybe? It was love at first click, for sure. My love for her was unrequited for some time, this is true. I don’t blame her – by their nature, paladins are slow to warm up to their players, especially back in those days. Seal-judge-seal-judge… But after two years of getting to know each other (slow levelling), a few minor arguments (corpse runs) and some “experimenting” (PUGs), magic suddenly happened. She hit max level and I took her to Kara. We’ve been inseperable ever since. As many good toons played by females, she started off as a healer. (My boyfriend at the time, however, was neither the tank nor the guild leader, but rather a hunter. Despite my clichéed paladin jokes, I’m not always a stereotype.) Once I realised I spent more time during a raid doing my nails than healing, my paladin and I had a long talk. Well, I talked. She has a pretty limited vocabulary, usually she just complains about being out of range or there not being room in her bags. Its ok, words aren’t everything, I still love her. SO BACK TO THE STORY, I talked, she was there and my guild’s raid leader stood by to mediate the whole thing. In the end, I decided to make her go prot. OMG! I didn’t think that we could get much higher, but we did, we certainly did.

Tanking’s a blast. It took me a long time to learn and I’m still learning. Its wonderful. After 4 years, two expansions, several patches and countless raids, little pally and I are still getting to know each and are growing closer every day. *sniffles and wipes tear* Our relationship is pretty adventurous, despite having settled on tanking, I mix things up by making her heal regularily and occasionally the raid leader lets her go ret. She loves melting faces, she really does. I’m afraid that with her personality (competition and theorycrafting aren’t my forté), she’ll tire of it so we save the retribution tree for special occasions.

Another way I keep the juices flowing is through a little pvp. Arena was tons of fun until I went down the protection road. Sadly, my pally and I have not played arena since. I miss it a lot, but its just not worth the extra respeccing. Dual specs are coming out soon, maybe that will be my chance! Regardless, Wintergrasp is amazing and I love the battlegrounds, whether I’m prot and guarding the flag, or holy and healing the crap out of everyone. (When I’m finished healing a battleground, I can assure you that all the crap has been healed out.)

For those who don’t know me well, it is a suprise to learn that my pally and I have an open relationship. She’s a little quieter in that respect, although I have logged on before to see that some of my baby spice and old spice is missing and that my bars have been switched around. That is ok with me. I, on the other hand, have been seeing a cute litte mage fairly regularily. She’s coming up to level 75, as well as a handful of other alts. That is ok with her.

The home I share with my paladin and my alts is a small, mature, casual raiding guild in the land of Moonrunner. Its kind of a long story how I ended up with them and they’re probably the only people who care the *slightest*. So I will save the story for a more appropriate audiance (or simply an audiance, really!). But anyway. I enjoy getting involved in my little community (I’m an officer) and I like reading about other guilds. I love watching how people interact both in the gaming world and in regular life. As if you couldn’t have guessed that by how I speak of my pally =/.

My weapon of choice is the Giant Spoon:
Giant Spoon with a cherry on top

It is extremely effective against the following:
- Other tanks who taunt off of me
- Warriors who put vigilence on me (Like I wouldn’t notice! – a giant spoon/hand of salvation macro is the best strategy to down such warriors and take their purples)
- Priests, Mages and other Paladins when tier tokens drop.
- Tanks who roll against me
- Officers who argue with me
- People who come to raids without flasks

Ok, this has been long winded enough. Laterz!


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