What goes on in here stays in here. Or not?
One of my concerns with starting a blog was that I love talking about how people interact with each other, how I interact with people and about people in general. But where do you draw the line between discussing a hot topic and betraying trust? What is safe to talk about publicly and what isn’t?
In my last post, I talked about the current status of my relationship with my guild’s management team. I kept it as general as possible, focusing on my train of thought rather than on the circumstances themselves. Was that still crossing the line?
What if I wanted someone else’s opinion, sent a letter to wow.com’s officer quarters section (note: I didn’t) and it got published? Obviously, no one but other officers of my guild would recognize that I was talking about them. But how would they react? Would they be insulted that I went behind their backs and publicly commented on things that should remain private? I think they would be.
How would I react if I came across a post saying “we have this one guildie, she’s overly emotional, nosey and whiny” and the examples provided made it obvious the post was about me? I know I’m overly emotional, nosey and whiny, but that doesn’t mean that I want other people writing that where I can see it.
At the same time, there’s no clean cut way to lead a guild, everything depends on personal factors. And the resulting discussion is too damn interesting. I love reading Plus heal’s forum on leadership discussion. Yet what happens when you post on a public message board “this our problem, this is why the problem occured, this is what we’re doing to fix it, what do you guys think?” Is that acceptable behavior, or is it doing dirty laundry in public? As I mentioned earlier, offense may be taken, but it’s also how you compare notes, widen your horizons, are exposed to new ideas.
All I can say is that it gives me headache.